FAQs About Getting Started

At Vardags, we understand that when it comes to your children, nothing is more important than securing their wellbeing and protecting your role in their lives. Founded with the goal of bringing Magic Circle standards to family law, we have built a reputation as one of the UK’s leading firms for high-net-worth individuals and their families.

Our team is known for handling the most complex and sensitive cases with discretion, precision, and care – ensuring that every case is managed with the utmost attention to detail and the child’s welfare at its core.

This FAQ page is designed to answer the most common questions we receive from clients at the beginning of their journey through private children law. Whether you are considering your options, facing an urgent dispute, or simply want to understand the process, these answers will help you take the first step with clarity and confidence.

What is private children law?

Private children law governs disputes between private individuals - typically parents or guardians - regarding a child’s upbringing. This includes decisions about where a child lives, how much time they spend with each parent, and how key aspects of their welfare are managed. It is distinct from public law, which involves local authorities or safeguarding concerns.

Why should I instruct a solicitor for private children matters?

For clients with complex family dynamics, international considerations, or significant assets, expert legal advice is essential. A specialist solicitor ensures your rights are protected, your child’s welfare is prioritised, and your reputation and privacy are preserved throughout the process. We offer strategic, discreet guidance tailored to your circumstances.

What are the first steps I should take?

We recommend an initial consultation to understand your goals and concerns. From there, we can advise on the most appropriate route - whether that’s negotiation, mediation, or court proceedings. We also assist in gathering relevant documentation and preparing a clear strategy from the outset.

Is court always necessary?

Not at all. Many of our clients prefer to resolve matters privately, through solicitor-led negotiations, mediation, or collaborative law. These approaches are often faster, more cost-effective, and less adversarial - particularly important when discretion and preserving family relationships are key.

What is a MIAM and do I need to attend one?

A MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting) is a preliminary meeting with an authorised family mediator to explore whether your dispute can be resolved without going to court. It is designed to inform you about mediation and other forms of non-court dispute resolution, and to assess whether these options are suitable for your situation.

In most cases, attendance at a MIAM is a legal requirement before applying to the family court for orders relating to children. This includes applications for child arrangement orders, parental responsibility orders, special guardianship orders, and more.

However, you may be exempt from the MIAM requirement in specific situations, for example in urgent cases or those involving domestic abuse.

We can advise whether an exemption applies and arrange a MIAM with a trusted mediator if needed.

How long does the process take?

Timelines vary depending on the complexity of the case and the approach taken. Private agreements can often be reached within weeks. Court proceedings, if required, may take several months. We work proactively to minimise delays and keep you informed at every stage.

What if we already agree on arrangements?

If you and the other parent are aligned, we can formalise your agreement through a Consent Order. This provides legal certainty and enforceability, without the need for contested proceedings. We ensure the order reflects your intentions and complies with legal standards.

What if my child is reluctant to see the other parent?

The court considers a child’s wishes and feelings, particularly as they grow older. However, the overriding concern is always the child’s welfare. We can advise on how best to approach this sensitively, and where appropriate, involve child-focused professionals such as Cafcass or independent social workers.

What are your fees?

Having earned the reputation of being "the Rolls Royce and the Ferrari of the family law world’ (Legal 500), we offer a premium service. The Children Team at Vardags know that when it comes to families, each situation is different and must be handled with the utmost discretion and care.

Our fees reflect the complexity of your case, and the level of support required. We are happy to provide a tailored cost estimate following your initial consultation.